Relationships are good, but difficult to maintain if you do not put some effort into them. Below are 3 common relationship problems and how to solve them.
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All relationship problems start from poor communication, “You can’t communicate while you’re checking your Smartphone, watching TV, or playing video games,“.
- Make an actual appointment with each other, If you live together, put the smart phones on vibrate, put the kids to bed, and let voicemail pick up your calls.
- If you can’t “communicate” without raising your voices, go to a public spot like a restaurant where you’d be embarrassed if anyone saw you screaming.
- Set up some rules. Try not to interrupt until your partner is through speaking, or ban phrases such as “You always …” or “You never ….“
- Use body language to show you’re listening. Don’t look at your watch, or pick at your nails. Nod so the other person knows you’re getting the message, and rephrase if you need to.
Even partners who love each other can be a mismatch, sexually. “Sex brings us closer together, releases hormones that help our bodies both physically and mentally, and keeps the chemistry of a healthy couple healthy“.
- Plan, Make an appointment, but not necessarily at night when everyone is tired. “When sex is on the calendar, it increases your anticipation,“. Change things up a bit, Why not have sex in the kitchen? Or at the Shower?
- Learn what truly turns you and your partner on.
Money problems can start even before the wedding vows are exchanged. They can start, forexample, from the expenses of staying together or from the cost of a wedding.
- Be honest about your current financial situation. If things have gone south, continuing the same lifestyle is unrealistic.
- Don’t approach the subject in the heat of battle. Instead, set aside a time that is convenient and non-threatening for both of you.
- Acknowledge that one partner may be a saver and one a spender, understand there are benefits to both, and agree to learn from each other’s tendencies.
- Don’t hide income or debt. Bring financial documents to the table.
- Don’t blame.
- Construct a joint budget that includes savings.
- Decide which person will be responsible for paying the monthly bills.
Even though there are always going to be problems in a relationship, you can do things to minimize marriage problems, if not avoid them altogether. Be willing to work on your relationship and to truly look at what needs to be done. Don’t think that things would be better with someone else.